from sex and the city

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

2. Stop making excuses for a man and his
behavior.

3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a
man's character, leave him alone.

4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

6. Don't force an attraction.

7. Slower is
better.

8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.


9. If a relationship ends because the man was not
treating you as you deserve then heck no you
can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship,
but don't let faith make you stupid. God does
things decent and in order.

11. Don't
settle.

12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.


13. If he keeps changing his mind about the
relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is
unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get
better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for
staying when things are not better.

15. Honorable men take care of their business
and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.

16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.

18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a
bunch of different women. He didn't marry them
when he got them pregnant, why would he treat
y! ou any differently?

19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before
finding the prince.


20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.

21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If
something bothers you, speak up.


23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.

24. Be honest and upfront.

25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.

26. Don't fall
for the "I'm confused role". Remove
yourself from the situation to let him figure things
out (but don't wait for him, move on).


27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will
treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his
family (not just mom).

28. There's more than physical abuse, there's
emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of
them...flee.

29. You cannot change a man's
behaviors.
Change comes from within.

30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not
willing to follow himself --
double-standard.

31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more
important than you are...even if he has more
education or in a better job.

32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a
man, nothing more nothing less.


33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!

34. Don't compete with other woman, but be
aware that men are attracted to what they
see.

35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is.
Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.

36. Actions speak louder than words.

37. Never let a man define
who you are.

38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to
yourself for that.


39. Never borrow someone else's man.

40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't
mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean
that you are meant to be with him.

42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right'
the next time.

43. Know that you deserve to be the number one
person in the life of the #1person in your life.

44. Love is a verb ...

45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to
make someone unavailable-available, someone
ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.

46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW
him to treat you.


47. All men are NOT dogs.

48. You should not be the one doing all the
bending...compromise is a two way street.

49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.

50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.

51. You need time to heal between
relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a
new relationship.

52. You should never look for someone to
COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two
WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complementary...not supplementary.

53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you
are getting out of it.

55. Never become your man's "therapist".

56. When actions and words conflict, believe the
actions. Respond to the actions.

57. A real healthy relationship requires two
people. One person can end it - but it takes two to
make it work.

58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving
type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world
(within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.

59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man
always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him he
takes it
for granted.

60. Give him his space...let him go out with his
boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you,
You cant force a man to hang
out with you.

61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with
him you shouldn't.

62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it
against you later.

63. Never move into his mother's house.

64. Provide financially for yourself and don't
depend on anyone.

65. Never co-sign for a man.

66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he
is so
innocent.

67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.


68. Never let a man mess up your credit.

69. When it's time to let go; let go.

70. Good men should be treated like good men.

71. Don't play games.

72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give
you everything that you need.

73. Keep
him in your radar but get to know others.

74. Compatibility in terms of educational
attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career
goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.

75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.